How Long Will You Hate Yourself?

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My site has been getting a lot of traffic lately from Pinterest.com, mostly due to my sweet hoodies. There are a few of my fellow lifters on the site, representing the LiftBigEatBig mentality, but after checking the site out I have to say I am pretty shocked at some of the posts–partly because I work with a lot of women whose goals are throwing a lot of weight on the bar, and feasting on a big steak afterwards, with little regard for the numbers on the scale.

It really disappoints me to see women caught in a cycle of hating themselves and their bodies, while simultaneously pronouncing freedom from society’s oppression on their self image. I’m not pretending to know what it is like to be a woman by any means. I do know, however, that subscribing to magazines like Cosmo will only continue to teach you that you need to improve yourself and lose weight so you can please your mate.
The entire magazine is devoted to how YOU, as a woman, should change yourself so men will like you more. All this does is set you up for a life of inner self-loathing and a feeling of inadequacy. You may think that if you just “lose that last 5 pounds and then everything will be fine”, but in reality, you will just move on to find something else about yourself that disgusts you.
Instead of devoting your life to visually pleasing another and focusing on your looks, instead try to build your abilities. For example, I don’t want a rock hard 6-pack, and neither does my wife. We would both rather increase our strength as much as possible, and have the ability to teach others the same knowledge we possess. 
My wife and I.
Let’s face it: your body type is your body type. Let’s not waste time looking at pictures of people whose body type we wish to have, because you will never have their body type no matter how much you starve yourself or how many miles you run. Take your focus off of a weight goal that is not only unattainable, but extremely unhealthy. Yes there is such a thing as a healthy weight, but everyone remembers that muscle is more dense more than fat and if you are a solid 150 and look great, who cares what your weight is?

Do you really want to spend your entire life obsessed about your weight and despise what you see in the mirror? I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Cancel your subscription to Cosmo, toss the scale, grab a barbell and a t-bone and start lifting big.